“I think I can, I think I can…” has been my mantra for the last three weeks. There have been some big changes happening in my life and in the lives of those around me. The climax of the changes? My identical twin sister/bestfriend/sidekick/better half (blah blah blah you get the picture) has married the love of her life. Of course, I knew this was coming. I had a year of engagement to prepare right? Ha, wrong! It didn’t really hit me until that night…on the altar…standing right by my sister’s side. It was witnessing my twin sister and now brother in law exchange vows that really made this new chapter of our lives feel real. Thankfully that night was so full of love and joy that only exciting and grateful thoughts filled my head. Then… dum dum dummm…Monday came. And let me just say that I’m not one to dread Mondays. I always am excited to start a new week. But I can promise you one thing. I will never forget that particular Monday.
It felt off. It’s not like it was a new task to go about my day solo or be alone. No, I’ve already crossed that bridge. The uneasy feeling was deeper than that. I had to create a new normal for myself and that reality hit me like a ton of bricks. I was scared and excited at the same time. Unfortunately, negative thoughts are 100 times more powerful than positive ones so it took a while for my feelings of excitement to overpower the fearful ones. To make a long story short, that was three weeks ago. Three Mondays ago. When you are in the midst of a huge transition, three weeks seems like, oh I don’t know, three years. How can I learn so much about myself in just three weeks? Is that possible? Must be. It may not be much, but I am a little better. A little stronger. And surprisingly, a whole lot more independent. I know many of you may be chuckling at this post. You are probably thinking to yourself, “Welcome to the world we all live in…without a twin!” Trust me, I laugh at myself sometimes too.
I could talk about this forever because I think so many people, especially close friends, are going through a similar experience. Yes, the details are different, but at the core it is the same. We are all entering into a transition phase of our lives. We just graduated college (or about to), entering the working world, and sadly are separated from our friends. The unknown is swarming around us and if you are anything like me you may be trying to escape. Well, stop trying. It is a waste of time. Instead, take a vow to yourself, to embrace the unknown as an exciting gift waiting to be opened. All we can do is continue to take steps forward believing that we are in one of the most exciting, fun stages of our lives. After all, aren’t our twenties supposed to the some of the most adventurous, memorable years? Let’s think about it. We have obligations but not too many. We are making some money but not much. We have to start acting like adults but can still use the excuse we are YOUNG adults. It is like we are freshman all over again. We’re walking into unknown territory with an excitement of what this new world is like. Just this time, it is on a bigger scale. I’m getting pumped just typing this!
So with all of this being said, I hope that you wake up one morning with the same thought I recently had, “Wait…I can do this!”
Take control of where you are in your life now and where you want to go. Change can be a good thing. Join me in believing that. I’m sick of believing the opposite!
Cheers to new adventures this new year,